Diapers Q&A - Disposable diapers and bottle feeding? How lazy can people be?

Disposable diapers and bottle feeding? How lazy can people be?

Why do women who choose to bottle feed and/or use disposable diapers constantly make excuses for their laziness? I worked after having my children, and I was still able to breastfeed for the first 4 months (then express to 2 bottles a day) and cloth diaper. Seriously, how lazy are mothers now?

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Well I guess I am one of those lazy mothers. I use disposable diapers and was unable to breastfeed due to medical conditions beyond my control. So before you start making comments about mothers being lazy you might want to think about the reason they do what they do.
You have to be a man in disguise - no woman would ask such a insenstive question! EDIT - my grandmother washed by hand. We had no inside toilet nor a bathroom - we grew our vegetables and reared and killed our meat. Do you do that now????
Us guys do it because we don't like handling crap and we don't lactate.
i use both those and im not a lazy mother! i find that comment quite insulting! a lot of mothers breastfeed, or put breast milk in a bottle thats not lazy neither is disposable nappies!
Good for you but i really don't think you should judge others if they have chosen a different path from yours. Although i'm not a mother myself, I've seen that having a baby really turns your world upside down and in my view, a happy, serene mother is a good mother. If that means using disposable nappies and bottle feeding, so be it. Their choice.
Maybe try to be a littl eless judgemental and think about WHY people take easier options. So you never buy pre chopped veggies or use a washing machine to save precious time and effort? I have better things to do with my time than avoid anything that can make life easier just so I'm not classed as 'lazy'.
Wow, this is one of the most judgemental fake questions I've ever seen. To be so shallow and post something like this takes a lot of guts and stupidity. I nursed my son til he was 18months old. Definitely planned to nurse our next baby; however, she was born with a cleft lip/palate. I was unable to nurse her b/c of the cleft. As for disposable diapers, they were easy. It's not a matter of laziness, it's a matter of convenience. I was on the go with my daughter to her medical appointments, surgeries... she's had 7, by the way, and is only 5 1/2 right now. It's a shame that Yahoo Answers cannot filter out the moronic questions.
i used disposable diapers & also bottle fed due to reasons beyond my control.
No you're right. You are now the paradigm of parenting perfection that I forever hold myself accountable to. Thanks for setting us straight.
Alot of people will read your question & be annoyed by the way you generalised & worded the question. I use disposable diapers & i bottle feed by choice I could do things your way but its my choice as an individual to do what I want just like its your own choice to generalise & post stupid questions that you know will annoy people
you seem like the kinda person who likes to blow smoke up their own ass shut up, do a load of cloth diapers, and go back to work
Something about a high horse and you are on it troll back off and shut up!! Just because you are perfect and all of us lazy ones are not up to your standards bet your kids are feral and run wild because you are at work all the time. Some of us want to spend as much time with our kids while they are growing up as we can, not work ourselves to death and being proud of all we can do because we are super mums, No we are just mothers and are good at it, Stop judging people you have no clue about and look in your own yard, bet it isn't as perfect as you want us to think!!!
Oh here we go mary poppins on her pedestal, this is how i see it if it wasnt safe to feed our children it wouldnt be put on our supermarket shelves (formula) i use disposable nappies to and formula. Does that make me a bad mum HELL NO my baby is fed and my baby butt is clean lazy i dont care my children come first I am so sorry we are not worthy to you mary poppins!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah I know everyone is too lazy these days
How is giving a bottle lazy? i see that as more work rather then pulling out a boob.Disposable diapers are a waste of time.Some people don't have all kinds of time on their hands like you do.
not lazy at all actually. There are alot of mothers who do this ( this includes myself) i was only able to breast feed my son for 2 months, and it was out of my hands, i didnt stop because i wanted too, i had no control over it, and i cried for ages because it was something i wanted to do much longer than 2 months, and to have people like you come here and act like you "KNOW" for a fact that im "lazy" its really annoying, because i didnt breastfeed as long as i wanted because i was lazy, that was not the reason, but ofcourse you didnt know that, because you DONT know everyone's reasons for doing what THEY choose to do. I can see your point about breastfeeding as everyone says its always better to breastfeed. But not everyone can make that choice to breastfeed as long as they want. and let me just ask you a question. How do you know that every baby that is being bottle fed, has been given formula? maybe some of them were having milk that their mothers had expressed. once again..YOU DONT KNOW! diapers..does it matter? i think disposables are much more convienent for me. I'd rather spend time with my son, than washing diapers. If mothers choose cloth diapers im not going to go and complain, and call them bad mothers or lazy mothers. Whats it to you what others do with their kids anyways, your not contributing to anything, your not buying their diapers or their formulas, so why does it annoy you? you did what you wanted with your child, and good on you, not everyone is going to do the same as you, not everyone is going to follow what you do just because YOU think its the right way to go. Everyone has a different way of doing things and you are just going to have to get used to it, wether you like it or not.
I bow before your greatest and renounce my lazy ways. Please, oh mighty one, allow me to be your student of the old ways, teach me how to be a better, more productive parent, I beg of you. BTW, shove it.
How dare you make such a rash judgement! People like you make me so angry. It is a personal choice not to breastfeed and to use disposable nappies - why does it have anything to do with you or anyone else? Being a mother yourself, you know it's hard work. Why make it harder on yourself when there are so many ways to make it easier so you can spend quality time with your children rather than spending hours at the nappy bucket. And here's the other thing - maybe the mums want to be happy too. Being a tired, overworked, holier-than-thou parent is not a good thing. I hated breastfeeding. It was a major contributer to the post natal depression I suffered. Should I, perhaps, have continued breastfeeding but become so unhappy that everyone else around me suffered. You are selfish, uninformed and very very rude.
Paula - good for you! I agree with you and you had to expect that the majority of people responding would do so very negatively. No one likes to be criticized. And - while there are still some valid "medical conditions" that prevent certain women from breastfeeding, i.e. HIV or thyroid conditions. there truly not as many women that "don't produce enough milk" as I come across with that excuse. I think part of the problem honestly is less laziness and more ignorance. Part of the problem is our medical community that even provides you formula while pregnant (courtesy of the formula companies of course). We are provided with alternatives - do you want to breastfeed or bottle feed - as if they are equal. PEOPLE - even the formula companies admit that breastfeeding is better. And the laziness part comes in when the breastfeeding gets tough. Honestly, if you can make it through the first 2-4 weeks, you are golden. In terms of disposable diapers - I admit to my own laziness in this area. I justify in that this little bit of convenience doesn't really hurt the baby!
Huh? Bottle feeding's much harder work than breastfeeding - all that sterilising and extra equipment required. What, you didn't breastfeed for two years? How lazy are you? (Not serious, but I trust it makes my point).
well not sure i agree with you cus bottle feeding in my opinion is much harder work than breast due to the constant preparations involved(ive breastfed all 4 children cus cant be hassled with bottles)but hands up to admitting i do use disposable nappys but its just easier for myself and hubby as i also work part time and would rather spend time in between the few hours i do work with my children and hubby and not worry about washing cloth diapers on top of all the washing us lazy mums have to worry about.
I used disposable diapers because I simply did not like cloth..for me they were more work than I felt was needed at a point in my life when there were so many other things that demanded my attention and energy. As for bottle feeding, my first child absolutely refused to breast feed. I spent an extra two days in the hospital so I could work with the lactation specialist and she said she had never seen a baby so determined not to nurse! For my second child, it was a personal choice because the medication I was taking to prevent another post partum depression (I had a severe post partum after my first, so the meds were preventative). That being said, not everyone is comfortable with the idea of nursing or has the ability to do so. Many women have issues with milk production and let down. Many babies have allergies which demand the use of specialized formula. Not all jobs will allow women to pump (or have the flexability to allow it), so once they return to work it is nearly impossible to express breast milk. Cloth diapers may be earth friendly, but they require more energy and water to clean and the use of chemicals in the process..so envormentally they end up being a wash. There is no health benefits to using cloth that I know of. In the end, what is lazy to one mother is overwhelming to another. And passing judgement on someone simply because they chose to use another item in parenting is simply outrageous. Seriously, how judgemental are you?
What, you want a medal? I have no diaper service in my area - so sue me.
im expecting my first, and planning to use both disposable nappies and bottle feeding. Sorry but i dont see how these two options are lazy? To bottle feed, you have to buy all the different bottles as the baby matures, the steriliser that you do relentlessly evryday, making up bottles of formula all day every day and washing and sorting them all out. To breast feed, you just let the baby latch on Which seems more lazy now?
I don't necessarily chalk it up to laziness....BUT to choice. I myself used cloth diapers unless we went "out" which wasn't very often and I breastfed (my one and only daughter) until she was 10 months old.....
Why don't you leave the judging up to god?
The thought of breast feeding never crossed my mind. I bottle fed all 3 of my boys. Oh....you expressed your milk. Theres probably someone else out there saying...Well I never expressed my milk....how lazy!!!!
I dont think it is laziness i think it is convience more than anything... If u chose cloth diapers than good for u but for me huggies were our brand and my kids arent emotionally scared from this and all i had to do was take the diaper off and chuck it in the garbage can, beats washing it out in the potty and then have a bag of wet smelly diapers to wash every day... i agree with the breast feeding to a point, that is a womans progoative whether to breast feed or not and bottles come just as handy... why did u express milk if u are so against bottle feeding, for convience right well that is why i chose bottle fed cause my hubby could bond with baby too...
How old are you? This is 2008 not 1900!
So you didn't even make the recommended minimum of 6 months exclusive breastfeeding? May I ask why? Is it cos you were lazy? Go take a flying f**k at yourself dear.
This is really not a good subject to bring up with all these mothers on here. Have you ever had more then one child in diapers? I don't think you have. I have 3 children aged 5,4 and 2. And let me tell you when you have your hands so full you don't have time to clean cloth diapers. In all honesty I think cloth diapers are nasty, They stain and if they're not on right everything goes everywhere! So yes this makes me so lazy, Most of us mothers are SAHM unlike you so you didn't really have to deal with anything while you were at work doing nothing but sitting around. You havent tried being a SAHM all you've done is sit there and freak out about a bunch of bullshit that you have no say over at all. Get off your high horse lady and grow up! Get a life while your at it. I can honestly say that I am here for my children 24/7 unlike you.
First off I used disposable diapers with my children for the simple fact in the long run it was cheaper on me to do so. Figure in the detergent, going to the laundry mat etc. I did not breastfeed my children because I couldn't due to medications I take for MS ( I quit taking them when was pregnant restarted after delivery). I am not and was not a lazy mom. I was up with my children and held them, talked to them and rocked them while they took the bottle.........breastfeeding doesn't require washing and steralizing 10 bottles a day. We didn't move into our house until my youngest was almost 8 months old until then we lived in an apartment that did not have washer hookups so all of the clothes went to the laundry mat. Imagine if you had to pay $3 a load to wash and dry all the diapers you go through on top of the soap to wash them Luvs were cheaper on us. It isn't about being lazy it is what works best for THEM. You feel your way is right and we are lazy if we don't do it your way but that is the best part of America we are all free to do our own thing. I personally think that staying home with a child is the best thing for the child would you like it if I called you a lazy mom because you chose to go back to work and put your child in the care of someone else, that could be considered lazy you want a break from the child or any of 100 other things but no I don't judge you because you are a mother doing what YOU think is right for you and your family just as all of us have done the same. Being a mother is a hard job PERIOD and if someone finds something that works for them to make it a little easier then good for them. Do you always do everything by the book or do you cut corners sometimes to save you a few extra minutes. Just remember one thing There is no such thing as a perfect parent and if that is what you think then you are in for a big let down.
Boy, you sure are quick to judge. Seriously, how judgemental can one person be?
Well give you a big fat stinking cookie. Why do you have to judge others? I worked breastfed until my daughter weaned me. Didn't see the eco-friendly difference for using cloth diapers...since I live in the south and we are suffering one of the worst drought ever. Having to wash the diapers out seemed like just as much of a waste to our resources as filling land fields. But I don't criticize others for their choices. Shame on you.
What? You only breast fed for 4 months and then fed your infant from a (gasp!)... bottle with expressed milk?!!?!? Seriously now, how ignorant and rude are you? A lot of mothers use disposable diapers and there's not a thing wrong with it at all and it does not make us lazy by any means. We may not want to have poopy things in our washer where we wash our other clothes. It's not lazy. We always make sure that our babies have diapers to wear whether they are disposable or cloth. As for bottles, you on a losing battle there. Many many moms (including yourself obviously) have used and will continue to use bottles whether it be formula or expressed milk. So I guess you are lazy too then huh? Just because you wanted to use cloth diapers and exclusively breast feed doesn't mean every other mom on the planet wants to as well. There are many different reasons behind those personal choices.
I think this question was posed simply to get the reactions it got. No sympathetic and understanding mother could really have these opinions. There are so many pros and cons to parenting and different methods and practices, what matters are healthy happy children at the end of the day and that also means healthy happy parents. I my self breastfed both children, the first exclusively for two weeks, then addded an evening bottle, he was a very big baby and fed every 40 minutes until that point! I breast fed the second exclusively until 13 months, he would have kept going, but he got 2 top and 2 bottom teath and started biting and pulling ouch! As for disposables, well there really isn't any contest in my book, if the argument is environmental, well as one answer suggested the power used to wash cloth nappies added to the chemicals used, even the eco friendly variety! can damage the environment. Laziness doesn't come into it, I found disosables better for my babies skin, as the adverts say, taking moisure away and locking it away, no matter how regulary you change the nappy, moisture will still affect delicate skin and cloth nappies just aren't as good as the disposable brands at doing this. I feel lucky to have been able to breast feed my children, many mums can't, I strongly dissagree with the flipant responce that quoted "so called medical reasons" being such as HIV etc, they obviously haven't got a clue, as I am fairly certain you can actually breast feed with HIV! If I were being judgemental I would question your descion to go back to work, especially so soon, but I don't, again I understand many mothers aren't as fortunate as I and can't choose to stay at home. Really this question shouldn't and doesn't deserve a responce, but I like many others couldn't let it go.
Oh wow.Want a medal?Well at least we are not nasty & judge mental like you..You do things your way,I'll do things my way..I have a question though.Why do all these mothers make it their business to butt in with other parents choices??Because you know,it really isn't.I could care less how other mommies feed or what kind of diapers they use.MOST mommies are really great regardless of those choices..That is,when they arent judging or putting down other moms..You are no better than any other mom.