Diapers Q&A - You're deciding the issue for us! Husband and I disagee on whether or not to get 2 diaper bags?

You're deciding the issue for us! Husband and I disagee on whether or not to get 2 diaper bags?

My husband and I are having a disagreement, and we decided that the majority opinion on Yahoo Answers will decide the issue for us. I am 10 weeks pregnant (really early for this discussion). My husband thinks we should get 2 diaper bags because we could each get the bag we want and would have two of every supply. He thinks having two bags would be more convenient. I think that's absolutely silly because we would end up transferring things from one bag to another all the time like cheerios, favorite binkies, blankets, ect, and I am willing to buy a diaper bag together that we are both willing to carry (aka more masculine looking). Who do you agree with and why?

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you will always have it with u so i would say 1 bag+you don't keep ALL the supplies in the bag anyway so u can still double up on them (it is sweet that he wants to tho lol) but no necesary
1 does the job!
I think one diaper bag is fine! Most of the time, you will be together. And if you're not, only one of you will be with your kid. So just share the one!
I'd get one, and then like one of those bags that people put their gym shoes in or whatever (they have strings on them to pull them tight). That way you really only have 1 actual diaper bag, but an extra just in case :)
I only have 1 for my son (whose almost 2). I've never needed more than 1. . . why would you? I'm pregnant with baby #2 and thinking of sizing up with a bigger bag but only 1 of them! I see no point in carrying more than 1 bag. . then a toddler, a baby and my purse. . . don't need anything else!!
1 large bag to keep fully stocked in the car and 1 smaller backpack to take into the stores, etc. with you. Backpacks tend to be more masculine also.
What's the point of having two, really? You're only ever going to be using ONE at one time unless he wants to carry one as well as you.... but I doubt he wants to. Get one. Then whenever you go out somewhere and use something just restock it when you get home.
We had one gender neutral big bag and then the little bag that you get from the hospital. That way the big one was for all day trips and the little one was for a quick run out. There's nothing worse than lugging a huge diaper bag to the store when all you need is milk. If you're hubby wants a "man friendly bag" do a search online for them. I can't remember where i saw them but there are some cool messanger bag style bags that are designed for dads. If I find the url i'll edit the post.
i say get two. just for the his sake. just be lucky that he is that interested in the child... i know plenty of women who would kill to have that arguement...let him pick out his own just to make him feel special...isnt that what relationships are about anyways? maybe a little bit of sacrifice..
In my days of carrying diaper bags I had 2, but one was for daycare and one stayed in my car. That way I could replenish the daycare stuff daily, while the other one was just loaded up in the trunk for trips to the mall and stuff. I only had 1 diaper bag that I carried in the sense you're talking about though.. and honestly, I stopped carrying a diaper bag pretty earlier and just upgraded to some bigger purses. I never felt the need to bring the entire nursery out with me.. so a couple of diapers and a tube of butt cream fit in a lot of purses.
I would get 2 diaper bags. It is a lot more convienient to have two supplies of everything. Plus, I dont see why you would have to transfer cheerios? If you start off your day using one of the diaper bags there would be no reason for transferring cheerios. And transferring blankets and binkies cant be too difficult, can it? If you find it too difficult then buy 2 of the favorite binkies and two of the favorite blankets.....although I doubt a 1-7 month year old baby would notice the difference.
I would say 2 diaper bags. It was always easier to have 2 for us. We'd have a small one for just running out and doing errands and then a larger one for going out for a longer amount of time. We usually keep both diaper bags full with what we need so we don't have to scramble when we're trying to get out the door! Good luck with your decision!
I think one diaper bag is enough, though it is sweet that he wants to have one for himself. It would end up being a hassle to switch the little things from one bag to another. He earns brownie points for eagerness to participate though! :)
I agree with you - one bag only! It's tough enough organizing one bag let alone two. And the chances of forgetting something is higher. Imagine, you're out for a couple hours and baby starts crying and you know her favorite toy would make her happy, but alas....it's in the OTHER BAG!!! There are tons of bags that are functional, stylish and masculine looking, e.g. a messenger-style would be great. Good luck!
ok, I would get one big diaper bag and a smaller diaper bag. Use the big one for long day trips, overnight stays, vacations, etc. The smaller one for doctor trips, grocery shopping trips, running errands, etc. Eddie Bauer sells some that are fabulous. I have their big one and I use a smaller one that I got from the hospital. Congrats to all of you. And 10 weeks is never too early to start preparing.
2 bags wont break the bank, but 1 would do well. We always had just 1. Why is your husband concerned about the appearance of the diaper bag? Everyone knows its for the baby.
Get two bags
My husband and I are new parents and we had this same discussion. We ended up buying only ONE diaper bag and thank goodness we did! To be honest, we rarely use the one we bought! We carried our diaper bag everywhere we went and rarely ever needed to get into it! I always carried one or two diapers (and wipes) in my everyday purse and that's really all we needed until he got a little older. Now my son is 11 months old and I don't use the diaper bag at all. I just got a little larger purse that will carry a few toys, a few diapers and maybe a bottle in case we're gone for more than a few hours. When we go somewhere for the weekend I have a little duffel bag that I use to pack his clothes and everything else in. Of course this is purely personal preference! I have friends with babies that carry their diaper bags EVERYWHERE! So, if you think you'll want a diaper bag AND a purse, then go for it! But I really don't think you'll need TWO! When you and your husband are together you'll only need one. When your husband is alone with the baby he'll only need one. And when you're alone with the baby you'll only need one! If you get a more "masculine" looking bag, there shouldn't be any reason why you can't just share one bag. I think it's cute that your husband wants his own diaper bag! I think that tells everyone how excited he is for this baby and that he's going to be very involved! That's awesome! But, I still think two bags will be money wasted. Just my opinion! :o) Hope that helps you guys to decide!! Take care and CONGRATS on your pregnancy! :o)
I'd say get one bag, then you don't have to transfer. But if your husband really wants one, let him get one too. My husband also wanted one.We got a gender neutral. Let me tell you...He NEVER uses it. I'm the only one that carries it.
get him a man bag, and you can throw stuff in an oversized purse. i keep 2 diapers, and a ziploc of wipes in my purse. when we go somewhere for a while longer, i put i a couple of premeasured bottles of water, and one of the formula powder dispensers. the extra outfit stays in one of the diapers. i never really felt the need for a diaper bag. and since we always have a couple of blankets in the car, i don't carry that either.
We use one diaper bag. It's a gray and blue backpack so both of us can use it. It would be a complete pain if we had two. In the beginning it was hard enough as it was to keep just the one stocked up. As we were not used to having a diaper bag we were constantly forgetting to put more diapers in it and such. Having to remember for two diaper bags would have been impossible. Now that the baby is older (5 months) it would require constant switching of favorite toys, clothes, his blankie, etc. This would inevitably result in something being forgotten. I'm amazed that I can always count on me leaving at least one thing at home. No matter what. I personally would recommend against it. But if you are more organized than my husband and I it might work for you. Congrats on your pregnancy! It's never too early to start arguing about silly things. It's all part of the excitement of having a baby! (: Edit: LOL I tried the small bag for running into stores and such as I was so sick of lugging around the whole diaper bag everywhere I went. I learned my lesson this week when I ran into the mall. The baby ended up having a blowout diaper. I didn't have a changing pad with me or even a burp cloth (I don't know how) I ended up using his blanket to change him on (we're talking major blowout diaper). He then spit up right after that so I had to use a spare onsie as a burp cloth. It was lovely. I've resumed carrying around the giant diaper bag. hehe.
i always bought two, the big one for longer trips and the small one for the smaller trips, it is actually really convenient to have two of them, its always a good idea to keep some diapers, wipes and extra outfits and baby items in the car that way if you ever forget to pack them you are safe
You will be getting 2 or more free diaper bags depending on where you deliver. Thanks to formula marketing, they give you freebies. We use one of those as our spare bag, and one as an emergency tote bag for the Minivan. We have a black Catini diaper bag that we use for everyday use. It is stylish, and unisex. I dislike diaper bags that have bears, or silly cutest childish things. It is MY bag that I use for the baby's things. It needs to suit me.
Here is a medium, Buy one bag and keep the one the hospital gives you and in a short amount of time your husband will realize there is no need for two. Two is more to carry and lug around, if you are worried about running out if supplies keep an extra stash in the car.
I always had 2 diaper bags, a big one for longer trips and a smaller one just for trips to the store!! So, in a way i agree with your husband, and in a way i agree with you too. Its hard.
I say get two... heck, get more. You will leave one somewhere or lose it in the house or car or wherever. I have several bags that I use and I'm glad they're here :-) If it's because of favorite things like a blankie... those won't be in the bag anyway so it wouldn't matter
Wipes dry and cream dry out really quickly when left in diaper bags. Plus I can't count the number of times I have found diapers that are now too small in my diaper bag. One diaper bag is more than enough. Or a small one for short trips and a larger one for longer trips -THAT THE SMALL ONE FITS IN
I WOULD HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOUR HUBBY 2 CAN BE SO MUCH EASIER! MY HUBBY AND I HAD 1 EACH AND IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER I NEVER HAD TO WORRY ABOUT PACKING THE BAG FOR HIM HE ALREADY HAD HIS READY BESIDES IF SOMETHING COMES UP AND HE HAS THE BABY YOU DONT WANT HIM TO HAVE TO THROUGH THE BABYS STUFF IN A WALMART BAG BECUZ U HAVE THE ONLY DIAPER BAG SO I HAVE TO AGREE WITH HIM 2 CAN COME IN HANDY!
I would only get one...get one that liek you said is nore masculin looking. Its way easier that way so that you can always have the bag packed andready to go.
Men forever think that way I was one myself. My answer is a Mom always knows what is right for her offspring. Try one bag until it wears out.
ok i gotta tell ya my husband has a diaper bag he keeps in his truck and i have one in my van! It is alot easier because you dont have to worry about lugging one back and forth. He also has carseats that stay in his truck too lol! The guys at work LOVE that lol! Anyway this way you never worry about leaving your bag behind and not having your stuff. the one thing that you do have to do is update the bag when baby is in a bigger size diaper and back up clothes. but i def agree with him sorry. Hey ya gotta give him credit for wanting one hehe!
We got one main bag and I let him pick it out since some men have issues with carrying something that looks like a purse. We have 2 other smaller ones. One is for daycare and the is for short trips. It is very convenient when running up to the store for a few things.
I bag is just fine...it would be to much work for 2 of them. Like you said choose the bag together. Then you will both be happy!
def. just one bag... my kids dad and i dont live together but we have always used the same diaper bag, wherever our daughter is, the diaper bag is. if he uses diapers, he replaces them (i dont think yall will have to do that since yall are living together). instead of buying two of everything, use the money for something a bit more important. it's actually really silly for him to want two bags, especially since yall are TOGETHER. good luck girl
I agree with hubby. We had just one, but it was also my purse. Shuffling the wallet/keys/cell phone around didn't work, so now we EACH have a backpack. I also like backpacks better because it leaves your hands free. You'll wanna buy 2-4 extra "favorite blankets, binkies" anyway because they're gonna get lost - get 'em before they get discontinued!!! You never want to have just one of anything - diapers, formula, bottles, cups of cherrios..... always have plenty ready ahead of time, so you can just grab and go. Good luck with your pregnancy and new baby! Congrats!
You only need one...It will be a waste of time and money to each have your own. Just have one ready to go. It takes a lot of work to get you and the baby out the door. Make everything as simple as you can! By the way, I'm worried that your husband is so interested in carrying a diaper bag all his own. (I'm kidding - it's actually good that he's showing interest in the baby already.) :-) Happy baby growing to you!
well,honestly it really isn't something that i would disagree about,,i would just be happy that your husband is getting involved and wants a second one..it's not really a big deal, 1 bag, 2 bags,,really doesn't matter does it? if you like that he wants to be a part of all of even the little things then go ahead and get 2 bags,it won't do any harm,,and if having to switch stuff around from bag to bag is a concern,,then just fill each one up wht their own set of things,,,thats what i did...trust me this is not really something that you need to be disagreeing over...many women would be thrilled if their husbands were this in to getting stuff ready for the new baby....
My husband an I started out with just one. It WAS easier to pack. However, I got stuck with it all the time because he was embarrassed. I think you should get two and pick your own. It's not too confusing having two diaper bags. Don't leave anything perishable or edible in the bags and check each time you go out for diapers, bottles, etc. That's a good idea either way. And as for favorite items like pacifiers and blankets, those will not stay in the diaper bags anyway because you'll want to use them when you are home too! I think it's less confusing having only one, but it is more practical to have two, and it should make both of you happy.
I think it's silly that your husband is concerned with the masculinity of a diaper bag. That sounds like a really feminine thing to worry about. I bet he hasn't looked at it from THAT perspective. Just buy one bag. The bag goes with the baby, not the parent. There's no need for two, and you're right- it'll just become more of a hassle. Perhaps a nice compromise for your fashion-forward husband is to let you pick it out if you have a girl and let him pick it out if it's a boy. Congrats either way!
i have 4 diaper bags. i like to switch out and my boyfriend likes to have his own, it didn't matter to me we didn't buy any of them, they were all gifts. it's nice to know you don't have to carry the same one, the diaper bag becomes your purse so keep that in consideration while ya'll decide!
I would wait to get any. I got two just at my baby shower, so now I have 3 altogether. I do use 2 of them routinely though, one to take with her to the babysitters and one I carry everywhere with me. The one I take with me has a larger array of"stuff" packed in it, and the bag for the sitters has more toys and just basic supplies. I transfer the favorite toys/blankies back and forth, but sometimes you will find for some trips, the smaller "minimal supply" bag is more convenient.
In my opinion you should have two. Two of everything is good. Plus the fact that your husband wants to get involved this deep on a trivial issue should have you more then happy ..:D .. not everybody get that kind of treatment. Besides , women shouldn't carry masculine bag and sacrifice their fashionable side just because of your hubby and baby. why not pamper yourself a lil? here are the trendiest and most chic diaper bags for you to see..I can't see why two of these is a problem.