Diapers Q&A - to all mommies who just gave birth.what is your daily sched like esp.moms without any help or maid ?

to all mommies who just gave birth.what is your daily sched like esp.moms without any help or maid ?

i just gave birth last month and my son will turn 1 month this 12th. I am curious what other new mom's daily schedule look like ? I have no help around the house and with my newborn.My husband goes to work everyday. Im wondering if you can still take a short nap during the day or none at all ?? I am new to motherhood and i wanna be honest that its pretty overwhelming. I cant count how many times i breastfeed and change diapers today.. wanna share your daily scheds ??? also, like what time dya u go to bed or wakes up etc..... ??

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for the first little while i would sleep when baby sleeps but after awhile when she napped i would get dishes, cleaning etc done. email me we can talk...ss_cm@yahoo.ca
Mommyhood is a completely life changing and can be overwhelming at times for sure .. but it is all worth it :) My baby boy is 3 months now .. remembering back to when was 1 month seems so long ago .. he was always a really good sleeper .. I remember napping in the morning when he would nap .. and I would go to bed then (and now) around 10PM (11 at the latest) .. and I always say the next morning that I wished I would have went to bed earlier the night before! I change his diaper about every 2 hours .. OR when I know he has 'soiled' his diaper I will change it right away. I would place him in his bouncer or swing (in the same room as me) when I needed to get things done around the house if I couldn't get done while he napped .. I also placed him in his bouncer in the bathroom with me while I took a bath .. And we try to do daily walks in the afternoon. HTH. All the best :)
at this stage, everything revolves around what your baby wants/needs. My baby is 5 months old, and it's still overwhelming sometimes. I think the best schedule is no schedule. You can't predict things. I just try and get done what I can, and have time to play with my daughter. My husband also works. While he works, I do catch up on some sleep while my daughter sleeps. We nap on the couch together once in the afternoon. Also when she has a sleep I can have something to eat. I find it's best to get little odd jobs done during the day that don't take a lot of time to do. When my husband gets home, he takes over with playing with her and keeping her occupied, while I cook dinner and do the bigger jobs that I didn't get around to during the day (usually a well-needed shower too). We don't go to bed until around 11pm, and we're up at 6am. And out daughter wakes 2-3 times during the night still (I do week days and hubby does weekends).
my son is going on 6 months and it gets easier, i promise. i couldn't tell you the # of times i wanted to stop breastfeeding so i could have a break. i stay at home also, but not only do i take care of a baby 24/7, but i also have 2 dogs. at first, i was overwhelmed, much like you BUT now here is our daily routine; 8am-out of bed 9am-i put Kadin in his bouncy seat, drag him into the bathroom (door open) and i take a shower while he plays in his chair somewhere around 10am-i am all dolled up for my day at home..lol 1030am-kadin takes a nap (~30 mins) 12pm-dad is home for lunch, i get a little break 1pm-dad is gone, play time starts, somewhere in between i snack while Kadin plays in the floor 2-3-another nap 4pm-start cooking supper for family, kadin usually plays in his jumparoo or exersauser thing 5pm-dad is home..i get another small break 6-7pm-play time 8-bath time and then chill out, wind down 9pm-bedtime 10pm-asleep for me kadin just started sleeping thru the night and i am soooo happy. also within this rough drawn schedule, i breastfed every 2-3 hours, so after feeding, i can take him shopping or run errands but i know i only have a couple hours before he wants to eat again. hope this helps a little. good luck with everything and congrats on the little one.
Hey my little girl is the same age as your son! I stay at home with my little girl and have no help either. I am also a first time mom and a young one at that (18). Just like you i cant count how many times i feed her during the day or how often! I feed on demand and it seems like she is always eating! My day normaly goes like this, she goes to sleep around 10pm i normaly stay up a bit later to spend some time with my boyfriend then go to sleep. She wakes up around 4 or 5am and i feed her she goes back to sleep untill 9am or sometimes wakes up again for a little bit to eat around 8 and i put her back down untill im ready to get up for the day. Between 9 and 10 i get up and make a pot of coffee feed her again. I normally set her down in her bouncer or in her bassinet with her soother where she happily looks around and makes little noises. I get some work done or come on the computer for awhile (She barely cries). Shes awake untill around 11:30-12 has a nap and i get some work done around the house. Then shes up again in about an hour eats and has some tummy time. She has a couple more naps during the day and i either clean or take a nap too and shes back in bed for the night around 9pm Hope i helped!
I can completely relate to your situation. My son is three weeks old and I am completely overwhelmed. I don't have any kind of schedule. I've started taking him for walks in the afternoon but other than that I do things as he needs them. I'm like you and trying to figure things out. I would settle for geting him back to sleep after a night feeding at this point. I do try to nap when he sleeps during the day, but I've always had trouble sleeping in the afternoon. If you can do it, definitely take those naps. Email me at danielle.lesieur@yahoo.com if you feel like chatting more since our babies are so close in age.
Well I just had a c-section and my baby is 3 weeks old now. Trying to take it easy and heal from major surgery while taking care of a newborn is pretty exhausting, so I totally understand. I wake up about 6:30 and feed her and then we go back to sleep until about 9:30 when I feed her again. She usually stays awake and I carry her around to make a quick breakfast and straighten up the house. Now I can't bend over so when drop something, that's it, it stays there until my husband gets home :) We hang out on the couch and watch television for a few hours. When she gets sleepy again, I go get some laundry and dishes done (laundry is a big chore, I have to be extra careful when taking the dry clothes out because if I bend over too far, I could hurt myself). Then I doctor up my incision (it split open after a few days because I was doing too much around the house). Then she wakes up to eat again and we relax ith each other for a little bit. By then, it's about 4:00 and my husband gets home and takes a shower. Then it's my turn! I take long showers now! Take full advantage of any help you can get and make it stretch! I love spending the day with my little angel, but it does get exhausting and sometimes lonely. She loves hearing me type on the keypad, so she rests over my shoulder with one hand and I type or internet surf with the other. Keep your chin up, this time will go by so fast and you'll wish you had it back! Good luck an congrats on a healthy baby boy.
Honestly, at 1 month old, if things got done they got done.... the most important thing for me was to clean the bottles.... if I got a shower in I was lucky. I started to shower at night when my hubby got home. It was hard to find time to EAT never mind try to clean the house -- now she'll be 3 months tomorrow -- and my time is still somewhat of a blur, but I do get to eat.... At this point she's up for no more that 2 hours at a time..... generally sleeps for 40 minutes to an hour, except for a mid-morning nap around 11 am which can last as long as 2 hours. At which point I shower, try to wash bottles, go through clothing that doesn't fit, put things away, eat (sometimes breakfast, sometimes lunch), get dressed. Then she's up again, (again for no more than 2 hours at a time) and sometimes it's a bottle, playtime, storytime --all depending on her wants and needs.... nothing TOO structured -- I do know that at this point she's going somewhere between 4.5-5 hours between feedings during the day give or take on a 6 oz bottle. She goes to bed somewhere between 7-9 and sleeps between six and eight hours depending on when her last bottle was. Last night she had her last bottle at 8 went to bed at 8:30 and was up at 4:45 for her bottle.
First ...congrats on your newbundle of joy. Babies are truly amazing. And so is the schedule you will have to keep over the next few months. Especially with no help during the day. Atleast you have help at night. My schedule varied from day to day ( I have an active 14 year old too) but for the most part all I did was breastfeed and change diapers that first month oor two. All she did was sleep. By end of month 2, I was a walking zombie. So if at all possible PLEASE TAKE NAPS. It was because I wqas so sleep deprived that I was not a happy camper. My 14 needed to be dropped off here and picked up there and THEN she went to visit her dad for the summer and left me with a new baby and no help. Let me just say that SLEEP is a MAJOR factor in your day. Especailly if you are the only person really dealing with it. Take as many naps as possible. Forget about the little household stuff that you feel like you have to do. Let your husband do it after work. PLEASE don't forget you have worked just as hard as he has. His was just away from home. Basically I had no schedule. I could barely keep up with the days of the week much less the time. I gauged by TV. Hmmm...its almost time for Oprah, the baby should be up soon kind of schedule. All I did for the first 3 months was breastfeed, change diapers, sleep, watch the baby sleep, pump milk, do laundry and breastfeed.
I understand what you mean by overwhelming...I had my son 4 months ago and I was in your same situation, my husband was back and work, my mom had gone home and it was just me and little man. We would start our day at around 7am, I would feed/diaper him and try to put him in his moses basket of bouncy seat while I took out the dog and washed bottles/mixed formula. If he was still sleeping I would try to take a quick shower...then it would time to feed him again, etc. I would end up eating lunch around 12 or 12:30pm, sometimes holding him at the same time! He would take another good little nap from about 1pm to 3pm so I could get housework and laundry done then. Then came the "witching hour" he would be really fussy until about 4:30pm when my husband got home, then he would stare at my husband like "I know you". I never had time during the day to take naps, but since I was doing all the night feedings and of course daytime feedings, my husband would watch the baby from 8pm until he went to bed (around 12pm) so I could get a head start on sleep. Now that our son is 4 months old, he sleeps through the night. My husband still gives him his last bottle at around 11pm. Since you are nursing, maybe your husband can change the baby's diaper and bring him to you so you don't have to get out of bed, then he can burp him and put him back down. He can still help even though he works during the day...having a baby requires teamwork right? It will get better soon, your little one will be eating more and eating further apart...and you will go from getting up 3 to 4 times a night to twice, then once and then that magical night will come when you get to sleep a whole 6 hours...ahh. Congrats!
I try and put him to sleep around 10pm, he wakes up around 1-2am, I feed him and rock him back to sleep around 3am, he wakes back up at 5am, I take him in the bed with us, his father leaves for work around 6am we sleep together until he wakes up around 8. I feed him change him and he ussually takes a nap around 1pm either I nap with him or do things around the house until he wakes up. If he doesnt wake up within a few hours I wake him up to feed him and so on. Basically my days and nights consist of breast feeding, diaper changing, rocking him to sleep, and me getting no sleep.