Diapers Q&A - baby shower question.... should i have one?

baby shower question.... should i have one?

i live in a military community. far from my hometown and family. i am due on halloween and have not had a baby shower. i'm not saying i should have one and i didn't expect one at all but EVERYONE keeps asking me if i'm going to have one. but i have no one to plan it. well i have 2 close friends one of which asked me if i was going to have one and i said no b/c i didn't feel right having one not knowing anyone out here where i live. i mean who would really come? right? well over the months i have met a few people and each have asked me why i'm not having a baby shower "free stuff". but since my husband and i weren't planning on a baby shower at all we have bought everything ourselves. we are set on clothes until he's 1 1/2 and we have possibly everythign you can think of BUT blankets, diapers, wipes, and baby hygiene stuff. well right now our budget is tight and i was considering the option of having one but i know you aren't supposed to ask for it but is there a way i could? it's just so odd b/c so many ppl keep asking me like they would come but i just dont' have a party planner. i have no clue what to do b/c they make it sound like i'm supposed to throw myself one which i really dont' want to do. one friend suggested i just do a diaper and wipe party b/c she had seen someone who did it. but really i dont' want to ask. any suggestions? or should i just suck it up lol. i mean we were already going to do more baby shopping this weekend for diapers, wipes, and blankets. oh and burp cloths and nursing wear. oh and we aren't rich at all! lol everythign i bought was used except for our travel system. i just did a lot of yard sales throughout the pregnancy.

Public Comments

Next time someone asks just say "No, no one's offered to throw me one yet." It's true and it may get a hint across without being completely blunt and ASKING someone.
People aren't very smart for asking you if you are throwing one. You don't throw it for yourself. Your "close friend" should be the one throwing it for you. You should try to have one if someone offers, it will be fun and exciting for you!
YOU SHOULD HAVE ONE. or tell ur bestfriend!!! ull get free junk!
Ther is no reason not to have a shower. If people are asking about it I think they would come. Also what a good way to turn aquaintences into friends esp being far from home. Register at dept stores and request gift cards to pick up the things you need.
My heart goes out to you, if I were there I would through you a shower! I would do as the other girl suggested and simply state there is no one to throw you a shower. Is there any way you could call a family member and ask them to throw one? Not sure where you are or if that's an option but you shouldn't feel bad asking family. I wish you the best of luck.
Some people throw their own...it's not conventional, but it's not unheard of. You can either mention you hadn't planned on it or u can just throw it yourselves. You can still register online for gifts...maybe family and friends who do not live close by will purchase items from there. I had a falling out with my previous planners and was moving, but I had a few friends INSIST on throwing me a shower. It was small with a few friends but we had a good time and that's what it's all about.
Not only should you ask for a baby shower, but you DESERVE one. Have your husband ask one of the wives of a friend to throw one for you. That way you won't be worried about being rude. Maybe he could tell them it's a surprise and let them know what you need for your baby. By no means should you just suck it up hun, this is a special time, you should get to share it. :))
Maybe you can have a welcome home party for your baby.
Im 6 months and I am not going to have one. I would feel uncomfortable with the whole thing, and no one has offered to throw me one. Im okay with it though. We have everything we need, but diapers. So instead my bf is throwing a diaper party. He is going to buy a bunch of beer, invite all his friends and tell them they cant drink the beer w/o bringing diapers.
tell your good friends that you would like to have one. They should get the poin that it is their duty. even if its just the three of you...you could spend some girl time together getting pedis or manicures
Since your so called friends are expecting you to throw a party then have a very small "wipe & diap" party. A cake, coffee, soda & chips are sufficient. Specify in your e-mail invitation "nothing really needed just diapers & wipers".